Even the hero wants to control us.

An anonymous commenter said this. And it's true.

Through life, movies and yet more life, I have seen this. The hero decides, and the heroine docilely nods her head declaring his shadow to be her fitting place in life. And when he doesn't, we call him the heroine.

What's important is that somewhere, it's ingrained in our collective subconscious that the heroine doesn't say no. If she does, it's only to say yes after the hero has made a crude pass at her for the hundredth time. And she doesn't usually say yes either. She runs away blushing and smiling. And the father says, "kitne acche sanskar diye hain maine apni beti ko."

After all these years of gyan, lectures and so called bills of rights, I realise that Sister Flavian was not so right after all.

The heroine with a voice, the woman who knows her mind and the girl who speaks without mincing words are usually rarities. And those rare ones are rather unwelcome.

The rich girl who says "No" to a guy will either be taught a lesson by the factory worker (80's Amitabh Bacchan style) or will have sense knocked into her head by a trauma she cannot face without her hero.

Yes. It's true. Even the hero wants to control us...