I do believe in...

... fate.

This blog is now re-closed.

I Hereby Declare

That I no longer believe in arranged marriages.

This blog is closed.

Today's Realization

Almost all guys want a wife who has a job. Very few want one with a career...

I was home today. And I happened to watch bits of an 80's telugu movie. Something about a woman who was brazen enough to leave husband and family to go "modelling". The only scene I saw was one where the guys father holds his head in his hand and says, "I'm sorry for making you marry this monster".

I know, thats how all 80's movies were. They were mostly about getting women "under control". But it startles me to think that this is how we still think... In movies, anyway.

So I was talking to this friend of mine about someone I met and didn't like and I said, "Look, this guy want's a wife who works. So he's not a total loser". And my friend said, he wants a wife who will support him. That is her primary job. And suddenly, it became clear. Yes. He wanted (and will surely get) a wife who has a job but not necessarily a career.

And as I understood, things became easier. It's easier to understand the guy. And understand what's wrong and understand why I didn't like him and understand how I escaped the mistake that would screw a lifetime.

And you realize that no career is not really no career. It runs deeper than that...

Position Vacant

Only those capable of outdazzling by miles need apply...

Brahman

That's what the Vedas call the all pervasive force that is the universe. Brahman is out of the scope of the understanding of an ordinary mortal, they say. And define not what Brahman is; rather what Brahman is not. Not this, not this, not this either, they say.

What's this to do with The Circus you might ask.

Well, because that's how half the guys get described by girls (or perhaps girls too, I'm not privy to locker room talk).

Not too bad, it starts. Height, not bad. Job, could be worse. Not too boring. Not very orthodox, not very strict (read allows wife to wear jeans) not overly mommy mommy, not too fat (or tondu), not very talkitive, not very arrogant (though he might act like knight out to rescue damsel from a life of drudgery), not... well, any girl can complete that list.

And while trying to explain this to my bhai, I made the connection today. Is this why they call them Pati-Parmeshwar? :P